Note to Self: Let It Go!

November 2025.

I just finished teaching a class for women at our church called Let It Go…a look at the different ways we try to manage outcomes. (And it’s not not just an issue for women.). I assured the participants upfront that I was NOT preaching from any mountaintop about this.🤪 I’m struggling right alongside everyone else with this.

Control is an issue that comes up often with my coaching clients. In my own experience, I’ve found a high correlation between trying to control things, and my anxiety level. The harder we try to control outcomes, the more stressed out we are. Here are some common forms of control: rescuing, enabling, unsolicited advice, people pleasing, avoidance, manipulation, spinning the truth, managing perceptions…and the regrettable list goes on. Humbling, isn’t it? And exhausting!

Does any of this really accomplish what we think it will? What if we just run in our own lane, being diligent with what’s right in front of us…and trust God for the outcomes? Let the cookie crumble, as they say? I feel relieved just thinking about it!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5