Trying Harder Only Goes So Far

October 2025.

Have you ever wondered why the “try harder” model of personal change and growth can work in the short term, but is generally unsustainable? Is this why New Year’s resolutions fizzle by March?

The Bible says “It’s not by (human) power or strength, but by My Spirit’, says the Lord.” Zechariah 4:6.

Traditional counseling and coaching provide some benefits. But permanent, actual change and healing come from the Lord; by the work of the Holy Spirit. What a relief that transformation doesn’t rest on us! We don’t have what it takes in our limited human strength, but God provides what we lack. Do we contribute anything to the equation? Yes! Our willingness to cooperate with what the Spirit is doing. Jesus said this, to a crippled man He was about to heal: “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” John 5:8. The guy was willing to follow Jesus’ instructions, and as he did so, he was healed.

So when we consider areas in life we want to grow in, instead of trying harder, what if we focus on our willingness to simply cooperate with God, and then rely on His power?